Allow him to simmer, wondering what you're doing." Laura,* 21, won over her boyfriend using this trick.
"Andrew looks like Brad Pitt's little brother, and I knew he was used to women being at his beck and call," she says. But I'm all ears now.' He felt lucky to have caught up with me." How everybody wins: Men, says Argov, equate longing with love.
Their behavior can be confusing, frustrating and maddening.Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of ."It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort. The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away. The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship.